Being in the Ministry

Sometimes, most of the time, you love it. Or at least we do. But every once in a while something happens and someone in the church ends up hurting you. Our first Sunday back to church since having Josiah, Miguel was preaching and I went to the nursery with Josiah. There were two other babies in the service, while Miguel was preaching one of the babies was becoming a distraction. Not just to Miguel but to others as well. Miguel called out on the grandfather of one of the babies ( who is suppose to be a dear friend of ours) and simply asked if his grandaughter got too fussy if he wouldn't mind taking her out. Well... He got upset. It wasn't his grandaughter making the noise it was the other baby, but Miguel didn't even see the other baby until a few minutes later. So when he did he asked the aunt to take the baby out to the nursery as well if she became a distraction. Well the grandfather got upset and walked out with the baby.
He made a comment to Miguel before walking out and just displayed a poor attitude. After church Miguel went to him and told him that he was sorry if he offended or embarassed him in any way. This man told him, that it was the first time he had ever been kicked out of church?! (uh.. that's not what happened) They returned for the night service (I was shocked) and again Miguel just tried to apologize and this man, who is suppose to be a very close and dear friend, started telling him hurtful things like "you must not be a very good preacher if you can't out preach a baby" and then other hurtful things. (this was minutes before my husband had to get up to preach) So this man got his wife, who was already sitting, and said they were leaving. They went to the car and she must have talked to him because they came back and sat through the service.

Now I told Miguel he should have just said if there any babies that become fussy please take them to the nursery. But sometimes when your preaching and you are getting distracted you don't always think of the best ways to say something. But what hurts even more is that we are so close to this man and his wife. He even stated to our Assistant Pastor's wife, that Abby better never act up in church or he'll have something to say about that.
Anyhow... it's times like these that make a Pastor and his family want to quite. (of course we're not) but it is so hard when you are basically doing nothing but serving others and then they so quickly and so easily hurt you. It breaks my heart to see my husband hurt, it breaks my heart to lose a dear friend. Our relationship with them won't ever be the same.
It's just hard, because I know this won't be the last time that someone in our church will hurt us.